If You Love The People In Your Life, Read This Book

I’ve been a fan of Emily McDowell’s work for quite a while now.  Her Everyday Bravery pins are my favorite item by far. As a society, we tend not to acknowledge our “little” accomplishments, which are actually the big ones. Personal growth can be exhausting, so I think it’s lovely that someone recognized that and created fun ways to acknowledge those little big achievements.

 

 

Emily’s Empathy Cards line has gotten a lot of press, and well deserved praise. Have you ever tried to find a card in a store for someone going through a really shitty time? It’s difficult, if not impossible.

When I came across There Is No Good Card For This in my library’s New Non-Fiction section, I grabbed it and held it close. It was a 14 day loan, and at the end of the first week I hadn’t gotten to it yet so I returned it.

 

 

Two days later, a close friend lost her mother unexpectedly. The next day I went back to the library and borrowed the book again. This time I plopped into a plush chair in the lobby and started reading it right away.

As an Empath, I don’t need to learn to tap into my compassion and empathetic caring, which is the purpose of the book. I have the opposite problem, because I feel everyone’s feelings all the time, I tend to overextend myself when it comes to offering to help someone in crisis.

Even though I don’t hesitate when it comes to reaching out, I’m still human and have a tendency to say something stupid when I’m under duress. That’s where this book is invaluable for everyone.

The information in this book could be dense and dry, but it’s presented in a way that is visually enjoyable and easy to process.

 

 

The book guides us through how to be present for someone who is suffering. It also addresses the times when you might not be proud of how you responded to someone’s crisis. Maybe you said “the wrong thing,” or didn’t reach out even though you wanted to. McDowell and  Kelsey Crowe, PhD  explain how instead of being embarrassed and avoiding the person, we can reach out long after the incident and still show we care.

Last year when my best friend was in the ICU after an accident, I was at the hospital every day. On the 4th day, the nursing staff changed and they wouldn’t let me in because I’m not family. I broke down in the waiting room sobbing “No one cares about how hard this is on me…” My husband kindly told me to get over myself. It’s not my proudest moment. I was stretching myself way too thin. Thanks to this book, I can see where I overdid it. Hopefully I won’t have to face such a crisis again, but if I do I’ll have this fantastic book as my guide.

I’ve ordered myself a copy of to have on hand, and I have a feeling this will go onto my list of books I like to gift to others.

Do yourself (and the people in your life) a huge favor and buy it as soon as you can. Even if you don’t read it right away, a time will come when you need it and you’ll be glad to have it on hand!

6 Comments

  1. Lea

    June 30, 2017 at 7:07 am

    ❤️ On my list. I’ve been struggling with how to help my dad while still grieving my own loss.

    1. Ramona Mead

      July 3, 2017 at 7:37 am

      I thought of you the whole time I was reading this. I think it would help you. I also wonder if there are books or websites/groups for people in your exact situation. It was most helpful to me because it reminded me that sometimes there’s nothing I can do to help someone I love, except say I love you, which is hard for me as a “fixer.”

  2. candice

    July 2, 2017 at 8:13 pm

    love this!!! ❤️❤️❤️

    1. Ramona Mead

      July 3, 2017 at 7:35 am

      I definitely thought of you a lot while reading this! I realized I need to be better at listening, rather than doling out advice.

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